5 things men do that scare women away!

There’s a bunch of guys who believe that smothering a woman is the way to go about love.  They call you 500 times a day, send you kisses and smileys every hour, hold you so tight until you can’t breathe, insist on celebrating Valentine’s day even though they know that day disgusts you, want to spend every waking hour with you…so annoying! Such guys always end up getting dumped and then wonder why they are so unlucky in love.
If you’ve noticed a trend in your love life where after a couple of dates the woman you like stops picking your calls and wants nothing to do with you… then there are a couple of things you may want to change.
According to Askmen.com, here are a couple of things you may want to stop doing because they scare women away.

#1)  Being too easy to please. Obviously, women love compliments.  But when you throw out too many early on, she’s just going to think you’re insincere.
#2)  Being too focused on sex. She already KNOWS you want to do her.  So if you rush things, or guilt-trip her into sex, she’s not going to put out . . . and she’ll question your intentions.
#3)  Being possessive too soon.  Don’t get jealous when she hangs out with her guy friends, or spends more time with her girlfriends than you.  And if you DO get jealous, at least ACT like you know she’s entitled to have her own life.
#4)  Being cheap. Women are drawn to men who can protect and provide for them.  It’s fine to split every third or fourth date, but making her pay too early sends the signal that you’re not the sort of guy she can have a future with.
#5)  Talking about exes. No woman wants to hear about your ex.  And it doesn’t matter whether you’re saying good things or bad things.  Either way, it shows you have too much baggage.

5 steps to make love to a woman

Unfortunately what commonly happens is men get their sexual advice friends or from pornography. As a result, they have a distorted view of what sex is actually about.

If you really want to know how to make love, you should follow a PROVEN system that is guaranteed to give pleasure to a woman.

In this article, I'll discuss a step-by-step system that many guys use to have great sex:

Step 1- Put her in 'The Mood'

Before you have sex, you have to put your woman in the mood. This involves setting up the right kind of environment which will enhance her pleasure.

To put her in the mood, you should darken the room, light some candles and put on good music. Your focus should be to create an atmosphere which emphasizes sensuality.

Step 2- Use foreplay

Foreplay is one of the most important things to learn about how to make love to a woman. Using foreplay is the best way to transition from a conversation to having sex.

Typically foreplay involves kissing, "heavy petting" and sensual massages. The rule of thumb is to really focus on her pleasure and start building up intensity.

Step 3- Give her oral sex

Towards the end of foreplay, you need to start giving her oral sex. Start slowly and use your tongue and fingers.

Since women like different things in oral sex, try to experiment with various oral sex techniques. When you see her get really excited, continue to do whatever is getting her into it.

Step 4- Tease her

Once you've brought her to the pinnacle of pleasure from oral sex, you should start to have sex. Now most guys will just start having sex without any thought.

This is a mistake!

Instead of going right for sex, you should start to tease her. What you should do is go slowly and start to have sex, then stop. Keep doing this till she goes crazy and practically pulls you inside her.

Step 5- Start slowly and build up intensity

Now once you've having sex, it's important to change paces (and positions). Again your focus is to concentrate on her pleasure and make sure she's really enjoying herself.

What really works is to build up speed then pull back to a slow and sensual pace. Keep doing this pattern till both of you can't take it anymore.

Knowing how to make love to a woman is an important skill to have. If you can follow the five step process I described in this article, you'll instantly become the best lover she's ever had.

Now all you have to do is go find a woman to practice your new skills!

One of the biggest problems men face is knowing how to make love to a woman!

MAMBO YA KUZINGATIA KUZINGATIA KUDUMISHA UPENDO

 

1.KUMNUNULIA ZAWADI MPENZI WAKO:
» Zawadi ni moja ya sehemu husika katika Mapenzi inayoweza kufanya penzi likawa bora na lenye kupendeza siku zote, faham kwamba hakuna mtu asiependa kupewa zawadi na kila anaepewa zawadi siku zote hujihisi kama ni mtu anaependwa na anaejaliwa na kuthaminiwa hususani katika ulimwengu wa Mapenzi unapompa mpenzi wako zawadi basi faham ya kwamba utamfanya mpenzi wako ajione kama ni wapekee kwako na anathamani kubwa kwako hivyo hatosita kudhihirisha mapenzi yake kwako, kikubwa zingatia pindi unaponunua zawadi kwa ajili ya kumpa mpenzi wako jitahidi kuwa mbunifu na uwe ni mwenye kubadilika sio kila siku zawadi zile zile zinajirudia kwa kufanya hivi utamboa mpenzi wako kuwa mbunifu na jaribu kumpa mpenzi wako zawadi zenye kutunzika mfano kama Card, maua, nguo n.k. Utamfanya azidi kukupenda zaidi na zaidi.

2. MSIFIE MPENZI WAKO:
» Sifa zinaleta changamoto katika mapenzi. Unapaswa kutambua kuwa usiwe mchoyo wa sifa kwa mpenzi wako usisubiri watu wapembeni wamsifie mpenzi wako pindi anapofanya jambo zuri na lenye kupendeza chukua nafasi hii wewe kama kioo chake unadhani usipo msifia mwenza wako unataka nani amsifie?! Jitahidi kudhihirisha sifa kwa mpenzi wako kwa mfano umemuona mpenzi wako kapendeza basi usisite kumwambia "Sweetie nimependa vazi lako la leo ama hakika umetoka sex nakutamani zaidi ya siku zote navyokutamani ingawa siku zote unaziteka hisia zangu ila leo ni zaidi" unaweza kumpa maneno kama haya na mengine mazuri ya kuvutia, sifa zipo nyingi mbali na kumsifu mavazi yake hata tabia n.k. Kwa kufanya hivi utamfanya mpenzi wako azidishe mapenzi kwako kwani atahisi kampata mtu anaejali ubora na uhalisia wake kimaumbile na kimatendo. ZINGATIA:- Usitoe sifa ilimradi sifa zisizo na ukweli.

3. EPUKA KUMUUDHI MPENZI WAKO:
» Sote tunafahamu kuwa hakuna binadamu aliekamilika na hakuna alietolewa nyongo kila mtu anakasirika na anakosea ila solution kubwa ni kudhibiti hasira na kurekebisha makosa na kusuluhisha hususani kwenye mapenzi, katika mapenzi hakuna jambo baya linalopunguza upendo kama ugomvi na kumuudhi mpenzi wako mara kwa mara. Ili kuboresha mapenzi na kulifanya penzi lako liwe imara na lenye kuvutia basi jitahidi kuepuka kumuudhi mpenzi wako na pindi ikitokea umekorofishana na mpenzi wako jaribu kutafuta suluhu mwite kaa nae muombe samahani iwapo kama unakosa na hata ikitokea kosa si lako pengine kakuudhi na bado unamuhitaji usikae na kinyongo wala usiumize nafsi yako kaeni muyamalize muendeleze mahusiano yenu na msiwe watu wa kuzungumzia tofauti zenu kwa watu wa pembeni. Kwa kufanya hivi daima mtakuwa ni mfano mzuri wa kuigwa na mapenzi yenu hayatofika kikomo zaidi yataendelea kushamiri.

4. MFANYIE YATAKAYO MFURAHISHA:
» Kuna mambo mengi mazuri na yakuvutia katika mapenzi unaweza kuyafanya kwa mpenzi wako yakamfurahisha kwa mfano unaweza kusoma tabia ya mpenzi wako na ukajua ni nini anapenda na kipi hapendi kufanyiwa ukajitahidi kujilinda kumtendea asiyoyapenda na ukaufungua moyo wako kwa kumridhisha kumfanyia kile anachokipenda. Katika mapenzi watu wengi hupenda kutolewa Out, kupewa ofa ya lanch, kupewa zawadi zenye mvuto na zenye hamasa nzuri kwenye mapenzi. Unaweza kufanya vitu vizuri vyenye kuvutia kwa mpenzi wako vikamvutia ikawa ni nafasi nzuri kwako kumfanya azidishe mapenzi.

5. KUWA MTU WA UTANI KWAKE:
» mpenzi msomaji ninapozingumzia mapenzi na maanisha mazoea yaliyoambatana na upendo, siku zote mapenzi hujijenga moyoni kwa mtu kutokana na ukaribu na mazoea yaliyopo baina ya watu wawili, katika pointi hii ya mwisho nataka nizungumzie utani katika mapenzi unafaida gani. Mpenzi msomaji fahamu yakuwa utani ni moja ya sehemu katika mapenzi na utani unasaidia kuboresha mapenzi ila utani ninaotaka kuuzungumzia hapa ni utani wa kawaida na sio ule wa kuvuka mipaka. Elewa wazi kabisa unapokuwa na mpenzi wako na ukawa ni mtu wa utani inakusaidia wewe kumfanya mpenzi wako akuzoee na awe anajisikia kuwa karibu nawewe muda wote kwani utakuwa unamfurahisha kutokana na utani wako. ZINGATIA:- Usivuke mipaka ya utani, usimtanie kupitiliza, mtanie kutokana na mazingira, usiwe utani unaofanana nakweli, mtanie kwa faida.

20 Things No One Tells You About Your 20s

Here are the 20 things no one tells you about your 20s…

1. You’ll be lonely

Chances are you just moved to a new city — whether you are familiar with it or not, it will be full of people you don’t know. When you are surrounded by this many people, it’s easy to feel lost and alone. It’s difficult to make new connections in a huge city. This adjustment period will hopefully be short lived.

2. You’ll be poor

Just because you got a job right out of college doesn’t mean you’re going to be rolling in the dough. Rent is f*cking expensive, so count on half or more of your paycheck being designated to your landlord. Put the thoughts of going out and partying every night out of your mind because your budget will not allow it. There are no meal plans in the real world, so get used to spending your hard earned money for necessities, such as food and toiletries.

3. You’ll be confused as f*ck

Your 20s are typically when you have your first real job and chances are you probably will hate it. You picked a major in college that you thought would prepare you for the job you thought you wanted, but after slaving away 9-5, you may come to the realization that this isn’t what you wanted. Now what? Don’t worry you’re most definitely not alone, as the majority of people in their 20s have no idea what career they want to pursue in life.

4. You’ll have your heart broken

Many people don’t realize what qualities they want in a partner at this age. They will use this time to try and figure out just who their ideal partner really is. As a result of this confusing time, the person you are currently in a relationship with may not be someone you want to pursue a future with. This is a difficult concept to grasp and can be heart-wrenching because as you realize what you want in life, you may have to let go of the person you thought you loved.

5. Your friends can change as you enter the real world

The time spent in your twenties can be the most influential in regards to your future. The people with whom you choose to surround yourself can, and often do, sway your behavior, sometimes preventing you from reaching your full potential. Trim the fat in your life and associate yourself with others who encourage you to succeed. Sometimes you just outgrow certain people. Don’t try to fix it, just accept it and move on.

6. The majority of the people you interact with are douchebags

Why is everyone so damn angry all the time? Maybe it’s the economy or maybe it’s their personal lives, but chances are the majority of people you talk to on a daily basis are dicks. People push through you on the walk to work with no regard for anyone but themselves, they ash their cigarettes completely oblivious to the fact that you are walking behind them and don’t bother apologizing or saying sorry.

7. Your career path will most likely change

Where you thought you would end up is vastly different from where you did end up. Your first job will be an eye-opening experience that will really show you what you want to do for the rest of your life. In college, you always dreamed about having your first job, but when you finally get that job, it’s nothing like you imagined.

8. Making new friends is f*cking difficult

As you grow up, you tend to experience things on your own and so the interaction with other people diminishes. You don’t have the same opportunities that college gave you. You are much busier at this time in your life, so making new friends isn’t always going to be on the top of your to-do list. There are so many new concerns and responsibilities attached to living in the real world.

9. You’ll never know if you’re exclusive, hooking up or full-blown dating

Are you exclusive? Are you dating? Are you casually hooking up? Are you friends with benefits? WHAT THE F*CKING F*CK? Welcome to the post grad world where dating is as confusing as ever. You won’t know where you stand with someone you are hooking up with 95% of the time. Good luck trying to define whatever “relationship” you are currently in.

10. You’ll realize money may actually buy happiness

This may sound cynical, but when all your friends are going out to dinners and to clubs and you’re home because you’re broke, you sure as hell aren’t going to be happy. Not having to worry about money or a budget brings a sense of ease to a person’s life. Maybe it doesn’t necessarily bring you happiness, but it does surely prevent you from being miserable. If you want to move out of your parents’ house and experience what freedom truly is, well you better believe that money is your ticket out of there.

11. You’re going to be in debt

Nothing comes cheap in the post grad world. You are going to be faced with expenses you didn’t even know existed. Guess who’s responsible for paying for these things? If you think it’s your parents, you guessed wrong, it’s you! Remember how badly you wanted to grow up? Well this is what you had to look forward to — bills, bills and more bills.

12. You will lose some of your friends

One day, your best friends are by your side and the next instance, they are nowhere to be found. This is common as you go through life. People experience change at different rates and slowly the person you once knew becomes a notion of the past.

13. Your metabolism will slow down, rapidly

The days of carefree living where you could have a bagel for breakfast, pizza for lunch and a cheeseburger for dinner are long gone. This is the time where most people experience a change with their metabolisms. People warn you about the freshman 15, but they don’t warn you about the post grad pounds you’re about to put on. Now it’s time to eat less and to work out more. You need to get into a healthy exercise regime now before you become complacent.

14. It’s not too late to reinvent yourself

The years you spend in your twenties are the most crucial to your development since this is the time you start to mold your future. The person you were in college can be your past if you just change your behaviors. Who you were back then does not have to be who you are now. You are in a new city surrounded by new people, so take advantage of this!

15. Dry spells are ever present in the real world

In college, all you had to do was throw back a few shots and hit up a frat party or a local bar and your opportunities were endless. You may think now that you are in a huge city, you will have even more opportunities, but honestly that couldn’t be further from the truth. It’s quite difficult to meet people in any city, especially those that you want to intimately pursue.

16. You have to put in effort, you can’t just get by

No more snoozing the alarm, no more skipping class and no more week-long benders. Welcome to the real world, people! You can’t just get by in the working world by resting on your laurels and putting the minimum effort in. In this economy, there will always be someone else equally as qualified as you for a position, so if you are slacking, your boss will not hesitate to fire you.

17. Blacking out cannot be a general state of mind

This was acceptable in college (not really, but everyone did it, so it was “okay”) but in the real world, it’s not a good look to have to be carried home from the bar by your friend as your eyes are rolled in the back on your head. Not remembering the events from the previous night is a dangerous and terrible idea. You are in an unfamiliar city, not your college bubble, it’s a risky world out there.

18. Your degree means sh*t

The only thing your degree is useful for in the real world is as a conversation starter. Sure your degree may be relevant to your career choice, but that’s probably not what landed you the job in the first place. Your personality and past experience will hook the person interviewing you, not a piece of paper.

19. Hangovers aren’t a figment of your imagination

Hangovers in college vs. hangovers in the real world are two vastly different things. In college, you could wake up, hit a bowl and eat a breakfast sandwich and immediately feel relief. In the real world, your hangover is much more likely to last for a solid 24 hours. Good luck trying to function at work the next day if you go out during the week, as your pounding headache will only increase throughout the day.

20. Your parents won’t always support your motives

The issue with a generation gap, especially in today’s times, is that your family may not always understand and support your dreams. Many people are realizing how miserable the typical 9-5 career can be and are leaving for the world of entrepreneurship. Hopefully your family knows you well enough to realize your potential is better suited elsewhere.

The 15 Things A Good Wingman Must Execute

• 15. When it's time to accept his duty as wingman, he must accept the fact that he is going to do some deplorable things, fabricate the truth and cover costs just to get you into the sack.

  

• 14. This is a no holds barred situation. If he has to take the bullet go ahead and let him. He eats the box no matter how big her friend is.

The Seven Principles Every Player Must Stand By

Becoming a player is like pledging for a fraternity or joining a secret society. There is a series of trials and tribulations you must first endure before you can even consider yourself worthy of the title. 

Prior to receiving this badge of honor that women claim to despise, you MUST live by these seven principles regardless of how many dates you’ve been on or how many players you’ve spent time with in the past .

1. Fail To Prevail
Are you ready to be laughed at, made fun of, and rejected by countless amounts of women? Are you prepared to risk being thrown from clubs by security, splashed in the face with drinks, and even be on the receiving end of possible lawsuits?
You see, being a player is risky business, leaps of confidence have to be taken time and time again that usually result in failure. These failures are how you learn and perfect your game, so it must first be embraced until it is conquered.

JINSI YA KUHITIMU CHUONI UKIWA TAYARI UMEPATA GIRL AMBAYE NI WIFE MATERIAL

Jinsi ya kuhitimu chuoni ukiwa tayari umepata msichana ambaye ni "Wife Material";
Mwandishi: Phillip Etemesi
Location: Nairobi, Kenya

Mapenzi ni kitu kizuri, lakini kinaweza kuwa kibaya kama utajikuta unamuoa au una uhusiano na mtu ambao haipiti wiki mnakwaruzana bila sababu za msingi au kuachana kabisa.

Chuo, shuleni au kazini mara nyingi huleta mazingira mazuri ya kujua nani atakufaa na nani hatakufaa. Chuo na shule ndo kuna mazingira mazuri zaidi kujua, kazini muda huwa ni mfupi sana kumfahamu mtu.

So what can you do ili wakati unahitimu chuo uwe umepata your girl ambaye ni "wife material"?

1. Be a bad boy
You will never attract good women by being a good boy. Like poles don’t attract. Physics teaches us so. Good women don’t live crazy lifestyles; hence their lives aren’t so full of fun. They seek to compensate that by having a man who offers thrill. They need a challenge. They don’t want men who will sit with them at home all day. They want men who will come home late, so that they can at least ask, “Where were you!!?”

20 DIRTY QNS TO ASK A GAL......

Want to seduce a girl with words? Use these 20 dirty questions to ask a girl over text and you can make her do all the sexy, dirty talking for you! By Gerry Sanders


Girls play hard to get almost all the time.It’s a good thing though, or you wouldn’t really think she’s worth the effort.
But sometimes, it’s easier to turn on a girl than date her. When it comes to dating a girl, she’d instinctively know you’re hitting on her.

If you discreetly warm her up to your flirty touches, you’ll see that seducing a girl can be rather easy if she thinks you’re a great guy.

If you know how to be discreet, you can make a girl fall for you or even turn her on in just a few conversations. But here, we’ll get to seducing a girl with just 20 simple questions, preferably via texts.

Dirty questions to ask a girl and make her wet

It’s easy to ask these 20 questions when you’re sitting with her, but if she feels uncomfortable or believes you’re trying too hard or going too fast, you may end up blowing your chances. And you’ll have a hard time making her like you again.

On the other hand, by texting a few sexy questions to a girl, you can always make it seem like a joke if she doesn’t warm up to you.

It’s easy, safe and a foolproof way to turn a girl on from a distance.

Use these questions, and if you charm the girl the right way, you could charm the pants off her and make out with her by the time you reach the twentieth question!

The right questions to ask a girl

Just use these questions and keep the conversation going by answering any other questions she may ask. It’ll all work out in your favor if you play it carefully and stick to these 20 questions all along the way.

And the best part, it’ll work wonders if she’s your girlfriend or even if she’s a flirty girl you have a crush on. Ask her these questions late at night for best results!

#1 Are you alone? This question is perfect to understand if she’s idle and all alone at home. You obviously can’t flirt or talk s*x if her friends are around her. Say something bold like “I wish I could be there with you” when she reciprocates with an affirmative.

#2 What are you doing right now? Play it nice and slow. This can help you be certain that she’s alone and bored enough to give you her complete attention.

#3 Do you like cuddling when you lie in bed? Warm her up to a flirty conversation without overstepping the line. This can help open her up by talking about cuddling with someone else.

#4 What do you wediar when you go to bed? / What are you wearing? A curious question that’s perfect to ask a girl when she’s in bed already. It’s personal, and yet not too s*xual. Say something like “Gosh, I can only imagine how cute you look right now” when she describes herself.

If it’s your girlfriend, ask her what she’s wearing and if she doesn’t mention her lingerie *which she may not without a bit of coaxing*, ask about her lingerie and also the color. A perfect start.


#5 What do you think you look sexiest in? Get her to talk s*xual by talking about her sexy clothing. It’s flattering and definitely s*xual.

#6 Have you ever watched someone else make out accidentally or on purpose? This question gets both of you in the mood. And yet, by directing it at a third person, you can avoid any uncomfortable situation at the start.

#7 Has a guy ever touched you or discreetly groped you while clubbing or in a crowded place? Girls have a thing about s*xual groping. Even if it’s accidental, it’s something they just don’t forget. You can answer something like “I wish I could have been that guy!” after she tells you about an incident she likes.

#8 Have you ever made out with a guy just because you were horny at that time? Find out if she’s a girl who can be coaxed into having s*x with a guy in the heat of the moment.

#9 If you had a pair of x-ray glasses, which part of a guy’s body *below his shoulders* would you see first? Time to get naughty. Really, how many things can a girl take a look at below a guy’s shoulders? Let her answer the question so you always make it seem like she’s the one talking dirty and not you.

#10 Do you like boxers or briefs? This is a clichéd question and even if a girl doesn’t care about it, she’d most probably say that she likes a boxer. Answer this question by telling her what you’re wearing. The whole focus here is to get her to think of your package without really making it obvious.

#11 What’s your secret move to turn a guy on? By asking her to visualize making out with a guy and describe it to you, you’re making her fantasize about s*x. And at the same time, she may go into details just to prove how good she is sexually.

#12 If there’s one place a guy should touch you to make you horny, which is that? This goes straight to s*x and arousal. And if she does answer this truthfully, in all probability, she’s already aroused.

#13 Does a massage make you wet? A full body massage makes almost all girls wet. You can always tell her something like “Just so you know, I came first in my masseuse class and I would love to give you a massage. And don’t worry, now that I know you get horny while getting a massage, I’ll linger in all the right places.”

#14 If I kissed your lips accidentally while kissing goodbye, would you mind it? Make her imagine your kiss. It’s a perfect question to get her to pucker up.

#15 Do you like giving an oral or getting one? No matter what she answers, you can always answer with the opposite of what she says. If she likes giving an oral, say you like getting it. If she likes getting it, tell her you love giving it!

#16 How do you think my body would look better, shaved or natural? Isn’t it a nice thought to know that the girl you like is picturing you unclad the minute you ask her this question?

#17 What should a guy do to make you wet? Get straight to the sweet spot. And when she does answer this question, talk about question #12 again and get descriptive about her pleasure spots.

#18 If I were whispering all these questions in your ear, would you be turned on? If you’ve got the conversation going this far, she’s obviously wet already. But it always sounds a lot better hearing it from the girl you’re texting.

#19 If you didn’t have a boyfriend, do you think we would have made out with each other? / If I were with you right now, do you think we would have kissed each other? This question can actually get you into her bed, but you need to wait for the last question to get an invitation from her.

#20 If a guy wants to come over to your place and make out with you right now, would you like that? Don’t talk about yourself just yet, unless you already know she wants you to come over. If she answers “yes”, go full speed ahead to her place. Otherwise, play the seduction game for a few more minutes before telling her you want to come to her place right that instant.

YAFAHAMU MANENO YATAKAYOMPANDISHA HISIA MWENZI WAKO

Inawezekana wengi wetu tukawa tunayatumia bila kujua kwamba tumekusidia kuyatumia. Haya ni maneno au kauli ambazo mume/mke anaweza mwambia mwenza wake kama ishara ya kumpandisha "nyege" kabla ya kuanza kufanya mapenzi. Wawili hawa wanaweza wakawa sehemu tofauti tofauti, mfano mume yupo kazini lakini anakaribia kurudi nyumbani, mke ukaanza "kumcharura" mumeo kwa kauli mbali mbali aidha kupitia sms au kwa kumpigia simu, ingawa kupitia sms ndo inasisimua zaidi!

9 THINGS A MAN SHOULD NOT DO IF YOU CANT MARRY HER

Women can be hard to read, but guys are pretty skilled at giving ladies mixed messages too. Like when a guy acts like he’s into a lady, when really…he’s just not that into at all. Here are things ladies wish men wouldn’t do when they clearly have no intentions of making them their wives or girlfriends.
1. Do not be ambiguous about what she is to you. If you only like her as a friend, refer to her as your friend in front of her.

TATIZO KUKOSA MSISIMKO NA KUSHINDWA KURUDIA TENDO LA NDOA

Tunapozungumzia upungufu wa nguvu za kiume tunakuwa katika uwanja mpana zaidi wa tafakari za kibaiolojia na kisaikolojia walizonazo wanaume.

Lakini kwa kufupisha mlolongo wa mambo sehemu kuu tatu zinaweza kabisa kukidhi mchanganuo mzima wa jinsi tatizo hili linavyowasumbua wanaume wengi duniani.

SLEEPING STYLE AND THEIR EFFECTS

Getting enough sleep is  important, because how you sleep impacts on your health. So how do you sleep?


On your back
Sleeping on your back with your arms at your side is generally considered to be the best sleeping position for spine and neck health as long as you don’t use too many pillows. Buct sleeping on your back could make you to snore more than in any other position.
Experts say sleeping on your back may also help to prevent facial wrinkles and skin breakouts.

 Is your bra causing unnecessary damage to your body?

Article: Treasure Chest

If you’ve been experiencing constant back, breast and shoulder pain and have trouble maintaining correct posture, you may want to consider having your bust size correctly measured.

With the average woman's bra size changing up to six times during her life due to multiple factors such as age, weight loss or gain, pregnancy and hormonal changes, it’s no wonder that nearly 80% of women are walking around wearing the incorrect bra size, oblivious to the fact that in doing so we are causing unnecessary damage to our bodies.

“Wearing the incorrect bra size, especially if you are big-breasted, not only makes you look shapeless and sizes bigger than you actually are, it can also cause severe health problems,” says co-owners of lingerie company, Treasure Chest, Shelley Smyth and Karley Parish.

Wearing the incorrect bra size not only damages the breast size and shape but if worn too tight can block the blood flow.

“It is always advisable to have yourself correctly measured before purchasing a new bra,” says Karley. “However, should one not be able to arrange a fitting, one can do so in the comfort of their home.”

Measure around the body directly under the bust while wearing a bra- this needs to be a fairly fit tight (this determines your back size).

• Measure around the fullest part of the bust, while wearing a bra (This gives you the cup size).

To ensure that you are choosing the correct bra fit, Treasure Chest shares some of their top tips to consider when bra shopping:

• If you’re slightly more blessed on top, underwire bras work best and give your breasts the support they need. When fitting an underwire bra, make sure that the wire lies comfortably on your chest wall - If you can lift your arms in the air with your bra staying put, then it’s a good fit.

• If your breasts spill over and push out above the cups, resulting in a “double-boob” effect and if the underwire tends to stick out in front, digs under your arms or lifts up in the front just below the breasts, then chances are you’re wearing too small a cup size.

• Most of your bra's support should come from the band, not the straps. The back band of

a bra is just as important as the front part as it provides 90% of the support.

When the band is too big it can cause the bra to ride up your back causing the breasts to sag and emphasising any “back fat”. The back band should fit firmly yet comfortably—and be completely straight—around the smallest part of your back, when it's on the loosest hook.

• If the cups are so loose that the fabric is folding, you're wearing the wrong cup size.

• Slip on a top over the bra to see how your body shape will appear once dressed.