Mwandishi: Phillip Etemesi
Location: Nairobi, Kenya
Mapenzi ni kitu kizuri, lakini kinaweza kuwa kibaya kama utajikuta unamuoa au una uhusiano na mtu ambao haipiti wiki mnakwaruzana bila sababu za msingi au kuachana kabisa.
Chuo, shuleni au kazini mara nyingi huleta mazingira mazuri ya kujua nani atakufaa na nani hatakufaa. Chuo na shule ndo kuna mazingira mazuri zaidi kujua, kazini muda huwa ni mfupi sana kumfahamu mtu.
So what can you do ili wakati unahitimu chuo uwe umepata your girl ambaye ni "wife material"?
1. Be a bad boy
You will never attract good women by being a good boy. Like poles don’t attract. Physics teaches us so. Good women don’t live crazy lifestyles; hence their lives aren’t so full of fun. They seek to compensate that by having a man who offers thrill. They need a challenge. They don’t want men who will sit with them at home all day. They want men who will come home late, so that they can at least ask, “Where were you!!?”
Good decent women want fun. They want men who will break up badly and go the length to make up. A good woman wants a man she can change or thinks he can change, though that never happens. Bad girls on the other hand are used to drama. They want a good guy who will tolerate all their wild endeavors. So fellow men, be a good guy at your own risk. Be a bad boy and attract all the good women.
2. Date many women, and don’t hide it
Before you judge, let me explain. Okay? A ‘wife material’ girl should be one who truly loves you – A girl who will do anything for you. Ladies are always attracted to guys who have female admiration. The boy who is always walking around with a different kind of girl every time still remains the one every girl wants to hang out with. You have to create healthy competition. The one who is jealous the most, will fight for you and will take care of you well as a husband because she sees value in you.
Dating many women also gives a chance to sample and sieve. You are free to drop those who don’t meet the mark and remain with good ones. Then slowly you eliminate until you remain with your queen. It’s a scenario similar to the famous reality TV series ‘The Bachelor”
3. Hang out in the right places
Clubs won’t give you a ‘wifey’. Go to church. Campuses have churches and Christian Unions. Choir girls are usually very good ladies. If you can rap a line by 2 Chainz and she can sing ‘Mateke’ by Size 8, you will make a good pair.
You can also go to the Library on a Friday night. A lady who is in the Library on a Friday night is definitely not a bad girl. A bad girl will never go the library on a Friday night even if she has 50 exams the following week. Sacrifice a Friday night to ‘study’- to study girls in the Library. Take your time to find your type among the ladies who are busy partying with books and pens then approach.